How can I make myself orgasm?
I sometimes/rarely masturbate but can never seem to make myself orgasm, is there something wrong? Advice would be appreciated :)
answer: It's actually really easy. It takes *practice*, though. Sometimes/rarely just means it's gonna take you a very long time to learn.
Inserting things in your vagina isn't the best way to get pleasure from masturbation if that's how you've been masturbating (although it can *add* pleasure while you're masturbating), because the vagina isn't the place where women's most direct sexual pleasure comes from. The clitoris is.
I don't suppose you've ever been permitted to learn the truth about all the people that masturbate... but it might interest you to know that infants masturbate (often to orgasm if they do it at all and - rarely - even during the last week or two before they're born)... that by the age of 12, almost 1/3 of all girls have been masturbating to orgasm at least occasionally for half their lives or more... that at age 15 it's 2/3 of them who are doing it regularly (many of those have been doing it several times a day for many years)... or that by the age of 20, more than 80% of women are doing the same - regardless of whether they've ever had intercourse. Even very old people do it.
Everyone can (and everyone deserves to) enjoy the pleasure of orgasm, including everyone who chooses to enjoy it alone instead of (or in addition to) having sex with someone else.
Masturbation is having sex with the only person you'll ever meet who knows *exactly* what you feel and what you like, even if that changes every second.
I can't tell you every step there is to have an orgasm... every girl and woman is different, and it would take way longer for me to type it all out than it would for you to give yourself one... but one thing you can do to find out is check out these webpages:
http://www.clitical.com/female-masturbat?/a>
http://www.clitical.com/female-masturbat?/a>
Read the pages all the way through, and try some of the things suggested. Take your time (it might take a whole afternoon the first time), and just enjoy learning what feels best for you. Sooner or later, you'll have an orgasm, and they get better each time if you're one of those lucky girls who can have them again and again.
An orgasm is all the things you feel and all the things that happen with your body at the peak of sexual arousal and pleasure. It's a reflex we're all born with (just like knee jerks and sneezes) that our bodies have in response to sexual stimulation. You will *definitely* know when you have one. There's nothing else anywhere in human experience that feels that way.
It can take a girl or woman anywhere from a few seconds to a couple of hours to reach orgasm. Both of these are pretty unusual but perfectly normal, and anything in between is just fine... and most can get there in much less than 10 minutes when they masturbate.
Just before orgasm, you might have a feeling a bit like you have to pee, but it's not quite the same, and when your orgasm first happens, there'll be a very strong (sometimes intense and *powerful*), warm and sometimes tingly feeling that spreads from your clitoris to your vagina and then through your whole lower body. Then very quickly your clitoris, your vagina, your crotch muscles and your butt-hole will squeeze and pulse a few times while that feeling spreads all over you.
During all this, your heart will beat *very* quickly, your toes will probably curl, you might feel like you need to hold your breath or like you have to breathe really fast, your body will want to tense up and might jerk or shake or shiver, and you might make some noises (grunts, gasps, groans or cries) that you can't really control. You might "squirt" or "ejaculate" a lot of fluid from your urethra (don't worry, it's not pee).
While all of this is going on, the physical and emotional pleasure that you'll feel everywhere at the same time is just about the best feeling a human body can possibly have. Your body is producing more of its "feel good" chemicals and hormones at this time than during any other natural experience, and your nervous system's pleasure centres are cranked up to their maximum.
(Everything you "might" feel or do above isn't always going to happen... some orgasms are much less overwhelming than just *very* pleasureable.)
As that feeling becomes more gentle and starts to go away (after maybe 5 to 20 seconds), your whole body will begin to relax, your skin will flush pinker (especially over your chest) and you might feel sort of like having a nap... or like just lying there and letting your mind drift... or even like doing it again (and again... etc) right away.
It's not often, but it *can* happen sometimes that there'll be no interruption at all between several orgasms in a row, and it can feel like one single orgasm... intense physical pleasure and whole-body tension and release that can last anywhere from 30 or 40 seconds to several minutes.
Have fun with it and don't worry. Masturbating is normal and healthy, and learning what pleases you sexually is good for you... especially because you'll know what to tell (better yet, to show) your man about how to please you when you eventually decide you're ready to have sex.
Inserting things in your vagina isn't the best way to get pleasure from masturbation if that's how you've been masturbating (although it can *add* pleasure while you're masturbating), because the vagina isn't the place where women's most direct sexual pleasure comes from. The clitoris is.
I don't suppose you've ever been permitted to learn the truth about all the people that masturbate... but it might interest you to know that infants masturbate (often to orgasm if they do it at all and - rarely - even during the last week or two before they're born)... that by the age of 12, almost 1/3 of all girls have been masturbating to orgasm at least occasionally for half their lives or more... that at age 15 it's 2/3 of them who are doing it regularly (many of those have been doing it several times a day for many years)... or that by the age of 20, more than 80% of women are doing the same - regardless of whether they've ever had intercourse. Even very old people do it.
Everyone can (and everyone deserves to) enjoy the pleasure of orgasm, including everyone who chooses to enjoy it alone instead of (or in addition to) having sex with someone else.
Masturbation is having sex with the only person you'll ever meet who knows *exactly* what you feel and what you like, even if that changes every second.
I can't tell you every step there is to have an orgasm... every girl and woman is different, and it would take way longer for me to type it all out than it would for you to give yourself one... but one thing you can do to find out is check out these webpages:
http://www.clitical.com/female-masturbat?/a>
http://www.clitical.com/female-masturbat?/a>
Read the pages all the way through, and try some of the things suggested. Take your time (it might take a whole afternoon the first time), and just enjoy learning what feels best for you. Sooner or later, you'll have an orgasm, and they get better each time if you're one of those lucky girls who can have them again and again.
An orgasm is all the things you feel and all the things that happen with your body at the peak of sexual arousal and pleasure. It's a reflex we're all born with (just like knee jerks and sneezes) that our bodies have in response to sexual stimulation. You will *definitely* know when you have one. There's nothing else anywhere in human experience that feels that way.
It can take a girl or woman anywhere from a few seconds to a couple of hours to reach orgasm. Both of these are pretty unusual but perfectly normal, and anything in between is just fine... and most can get there in much less than 10 minutes when they masturbate.
Just before orgasm, you might have a feeling a bit like you have to pee, but it's not quite the same, and when your orgasm first happens, there'll be a very strong (sometimes intense and *powerful*), warm and sometimes tingly feeling that spreads from your clitoris to your vagina and then through your whole lower body. Then very quickly your clitoris, your vagina, your crotch muscles and your butt-hole will squeeze and pulse a few times while that feeling spreads all over you.
During all this, your heart will beat *very* quickly, your toes will probably curl, you might feel like you need to hold your breath or like you have to breathe really fast, your body will want to tense up and might jerk or shake or shiver, and you might make some noises (grunts, gasps, groans or cries) that you can't really control. You might "squirt" or "ejaculate" a lot of fluid from your urethra (don't worry, it's not pee).
While all of this is going on, the physical and emotional pleasure that you'll feel everywhere at the same time is just about the best feeling a human body can possibly have. Your body is producing more of its "feel good" chemicals and hormones at this time than during any other natural experience, and your nervous system's pleasure centres are cranked up to their maximum.
(Everything you "might" feel or do above isn't always going to happen... some orgasms are much less overwhelming than just *very* pleasureable.)
As that feeling becomes more gentle and starts to go away (after maybe 5 to 20 seconds), your whole body will begin to relax, your skin will flush pinker (especially over your chest) and you might feel sort of like having a nap... or like just lying there and letting your mind drift... or even like doing it again (and again... etc) right away.
It's not often, but it *can* happen sometimes that there'll be no interruption at all between several orgasms in a row, and it can feel like one single orgasm... intense physical pleasure and whole-body tension and release that can last anywhere from 30 or 40 seconds to several minutes.
Have fun with it and don't worry. Masturbating is normal and healthy, and learning what pleases you sexually is good for you... especially because you'll know what to tell (better yet, to show) your man about how to please you when you eventually decide you're ready to have sex.
use a shower head always works for me ;-)
get in the shower and put the water to just a tad colder than yud usualy have it
(for me if the waters hotter it feels better, but it might not be the same for yu)
take it off the hook thing and sit down
(this may be cramped but it makes it feel better)
next put the shower head between your legs and point it at yur area, move it around slowly looking for somewhere that feels good.
when one of the spirts of water hits yur spot, yu may jerk abit, keep it there, it may feel over whelming, but dont stop, because soon after yu orgasm.
Enjoy
get in the shower and put the water to just a tad colder than yud usualy have it
(for me if the waters hotter it feels better, but it might not be the same for yu)
take it off the hook thing and sit down
(this may be cramped but it makes it feel better)
next put the shower head between your legs and point it at yur area, move it around slowly looking for somewhere that feels good.
when one of the spirts of water hits yur spot, yu may jerk abit, keep it there, it may feel over whelming, but dont stop, because soon after yu orgasm.
Enjoy
Take two pillows and stack them on top of eachother. Then, you can take a big stuffed animal and wad up a pair of socks and put it on the stuffed animals.....naughty part. Then put your naughty part on the wad of socks and start humping. After you get going. Go up in down real fast and make sure you breathe! lol---feels so good!!!
If you are doing everything right, and it still doesnt happen , then see about having your hormones checked..........
Source(s):
www.amenclinics.com
www.feelingfff.com
www.feelingfff.com
relax, lubrication, take your time.
A picture of me would do the trick.
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