I think I might be insensitive?
Well, when I have sex (haven't exactly had much of it, at all) it just...doesn't live up to expectations. I can feel it, but it is absolutely nothing I could ever orgasm from. And sometimes I barely can feel it; he's come out before and I barely noticed. My g-spot feels almost like it hurts instead of feeling good. Still, I can't help but make noise that would suggest I'm enjoying myself. And I AM enjoying myself, just...not as much as I think other girls do. I do get turned on, but the feeling disappears just before sex! I can think about it and get really turned on but then when it comes time to do it I just...don't feel anything really. I KNOW it isn't because he's too small. Should I write this off as lack of experience? Or am I actually insensitive? Should I discuss this with the gynecologist?
answer: It's completely normal. The first few times I had sex I was the same, I was like 'That's it?" I expected so much more! I did like you, make the noises as If it was great btu eventually gave up on that!
I didn't want to tell my guy I didn't like it so instead of telling him, I would take matters into my own hands. If I wasn't enjoying it, I would roll over change positions and eventually with doing this I began to enjoy it and blew my expecations out of the water.
Maybe even experiment with yourself, see what you like, then incoperate that into sex! Different positions will change how sex feels so try that out.
Girl on top and 'Doggystyle' are usually a girls favourites as on top, you can control, and from behind it's much deeper, sorry if TMI :P
Also try stimulating your clitoris during sex!
Good luck hun, hope things work out!
I didn't want to tell my guy I didn't like it so instead of telling him, I would take matters into my own hands. If I wasn't enjoying it, I would roll over change positions and eventually with doing this I began to enjoy it and blew my expecations out of the water.
Maybe even experiment with yourself, see what you like, then incoperate that into sex! Different positions will change how sex feels so try that out.
Girl on top and 'Doggystyle' are usually a girls favourites as on top, you can control, and from behind it's much deeper, sorry if TMI :P
Also try stimulating your clitoris during sex!
Good luck hun, hope things work out!
You are absolutely normal..
Very few women can orgasm without other stimulation on the clitoris with intercourse.
experiment with your man and find what works for you! its fun!
also, have him go down on you, it will help him find out what you like and dislike and remember to always speak up.. tell him what you like when he does it and don't be afraid to nicely tell him when it doesn't feel good.. if he is a real man, he wont be offend..
Very few women can orgasm without other stimulation on the clitoris with intercourse.
experiment with your man and find what works for you! its fun!
also, have him go down on you, it will help him find out what you like and dislike and remember to always speak up.. tell him what you like when he does it and don't be afraid to nicely tell him when it doesn't feel good.. if he is a real man, he wont be offend..
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personal experience
The first couple of people I had sex with, I was like..."That's It?" Like sex wasn't what I thought it would be. Then I met people that it was much better and very good. Maybe you and your guy should go to a sex shop and get some toys to make it better for you. Also, you can try some lubes and stuff so your g spot doesn't hurt. Lubes can make it feel much better too. There are also vibrating rings the guy can put on him and stuff like that...condoms with vibrating rings...etc.
You said it hurts so I am taking it his schlong is huge, so tell him go easier on you and get him to get a vibrator (A thing that tickles you inside of your vagina) there is some vibrator that fit the tip of the penis so its perfect for your problem. It will tickle you and make you enjoy it instead of being hurt.
My friends say "I would rather be tickled and pleasured instead of being stabbed and bleed.
My friends say "I would rather be tickled and pleasured instead of being stabbed and bleed.
The problem may be your partner. If they knew what they were doing, they would be sure to put you in the right state of mind.
Also, with experience you will become more familiar and comfortable.
Also, with experience you will become more familiar and comfortable.
Well if its your first time you may find it uncomfortable because your new and when hes porking you with that thing its stretches your vagina.
Some women just need "more" to enjoy sex, plain sex isn't good enough to satisfy them. Try some toys or crazy positions, that may help.
sounds like he doesn't do enough foreplay like full body massage and fingers/tongue to give you an O before he gets his johnson wet
maybe TEKKEN 6 will help cheer you up. it helped me
Having vaginal sex alone isn't a very effective way to have orgasms for most women (80% *never* orgasm that way), because the vagina isn't the place where women's most direct sexual pleasure comes from. The clitoris is.
It might interest you to know that by the age of 12, 1/3 of all girls have already been masturbating to orgasm at least occasionally for half their lives or more... that by age 15, it's 2/3 of them doing it *regularly* (many of them more than once a day)... or that by the age of 20, more than 80% of women are doing the same - regardless of whether they've ever had intercourse.
... or that the very first thing sex therapists teach women who've never had an orgasm is how to masturbate - because that's the *only* sure fire way for a woman to learn how her body responds sexually and what will bring her to orgasm. And then help them teach their partners how to do the same for them. (They charge big money for just telling and coaching people about *everything* I'm about to say here.)
Masturbation is having sex with the only person you'll ever meet who knows *exactly* what you feel and what you like, even if that changes every second.
Once you can have orgasms dependably when you masturbate, you can have them dependably whenever you have sex with a partner... either by giving them to yourself during sex or by teaching your partner what works for you so *he* can give them to you.
Seriously. If you don't have orgasms alone... it's time you learned: how's your man gonna know how to get the work together with you if *you* don't even know what the job is?
I can't tell you every step there is to have an orgasm... every girl and woman is different, and it would take way longer for me to type it all out than it would for you to give yourself one... but one thing you can do to find out is check out the "Female Masturbation" webpages at clitical-dot-com ...
http://www.clitical.com/female-masturbat?/a>
http://www.clitical.com/female-masturbat?/a>
to read up on lots of ways you can improve things. (Actually, the entire section is incredibly valuable reading, but there's an awful lot of it to digest in one gulp.)
Read the pages all the way through, and try some of the things suggested. Take your time (it might take a whole afternoon or even longer the first time), and just enjoy learning what feels best for you.
Sooner or later, you'll definitely have an orgasm in one or more of these ways, and they get better each time if you're one of those lucky girls who can have them again and again.
You will *definitely* know when you have an orgasm. There's nothing else anywhere in human experience that feels that way.
It can take anywhere from a few seconds to a couple of hours to reach orgasm... both of these are unusual but normal, and anything in between is just fine.
Just before orgasm, you might have a feeling a bit like you have to pee, but it's not quite the same, and when your orgasm first happens, there'll be a very strong (sometimes intense and *powerful*), warm and sometimes tingly feeling that spreads from your clitoris to your vagina and then through your whole lower body. Then very quickly your clitoris, your vagina, your crotch muscles and your butt-hole will squeeze and pulse a few times while that feeling spreads all over you.
During all this, your heart will beat *very* quickly, your toes will probably curl, you might feel like you need to hold your breath or like you have to breathe really fast, your body will want to tense up and might jerk or shake or shiver, and you might make some noises (grunts, gasps, groans or cries) that you can't really control. You might "squirt" or "ejaculate" a lot of fluid from your urethra (don't worry, it's not pee). The physical and emotional pleasure that you'll feel everywhere at the same time is just about the best feeling a human body can have.
(Everything you "might" feel or do above isn't always going to happen... some orgasms are much less overwhelming than just *very* pleasureable.)
As that feeling becomes more gentle and starts to go away (after maybe 5 to 20 seconds), your whole body will begin to relax, your skin will flush pinker (especially over your chest) and you might feel sort of like having a nap... or like just lying there and letting your mind drift... or even like doing it again (and again... etc) right away.
It's not often, but it might happen that there'll be no interruption at all between orgasms, and it can feel like one single orgasm that lasts anywhere from 30 or 40 seconds to several minutes.
Have fun and don't worry. Masturbation is having sex with the only person you'll ever meet who knows *exactly* what you feel and what you like, even if that changes every second. It's normal and healthy, learning what pleases you sexually is good for you, and when it comes to having sex with the one you *want*, you'll be able to tell them (or to show them if you like) the things you like best.
It might interest you to know that by the age of 12, 1/3 of all girls have already been masturbating to orgasm at least occasionally for half their lives or more... that by age 15, it's 2/3 of them doing it *regularly* (many of them more than once a day)... or that by the age of 20, more than 80% of women are doing the same - regardless of whether they've ever had intercourse.
... or that the very first thing sex therapists teach women who've never had an orgasm is how to masturbate - because that's the *only* sure fire way for a woman to learn how her body responds sexually and what will bring her to orgasm. And then help them teach their partners how to do the same for them. (They charge big money for just telling and coaching people about *everything* I'm about to say here.)
Masturbation is having sex with the only person you'll ever meet who knows *exactly* what you feel and what you like, even if that changes every second.
Once you can have orgasms dependably when you masturbate, you can have them dependably whenever you have sex with a partner... either by giving them to yourself during sex or by teaching your partner what works for you so *he* can give them to you.
Seriously. If you don't have orgasms alone... it's time you learned: how's your man gonna know how to get the work together with you if *you* don't even know what the job is?
I can't tell you every step there is to have an orgasm... every girl and woman is different, and it would take way longer for me to type it all out than it would for you to give yourself one... but one thing you can do to find out is check out the "Female Masturbation" webpages at clitical-dot-com ...
http://www.clitical.com/female-masturbat?/a>
http://www.clitical.com/female-masturbat?/a>
to read up on lots of ways you can improve things. (Actually, the entire section is incredibly valuable reading, but there's an awful lot of it to digest in one gulp.)
Read the pages all the way through, and try some of the things suggested. Take your time (it might take a whole afternoon or even longer the first time), and just enjoy learning what feels best for you.
Sooner or later, you'll definitely have an orgasm in one or more of these ways, and they get better each time if you're one of those lucky girls who can have them again and again.
You will *definitely* know when you have an orgasm. There's nothing else anywhere in human experience that feels that way.
It can take anywhere from a few seconds to a couple of hours to reach orgasm... both of these are unusual but normal, and anything in between is just fine.
Just before orgasm, you might have a feeling a bit like you have to pee, but it's not quite the same, and when your orgasm first happens, there'll be a very strong (sometimes intense and *powerful*), warm and sometimes tingly feeling that spreads from your clitoris to your vagina and then through your whole lower body. Then very quickly your clitoris, your vagina, your crotch muscles and your butt-hole will squeeze and pulse a few times while that feeling spreads all over you.
During all this, your heart will beat *very* quickly, your toes will probably curl, you might feel like you need to hold your breath or like you have to breathe really fast, your body will want to tense up and might jerk or shake or shiver, and you might make some noises (grunts, gasps, groans or cries) that you can't really control. You might "squirt" or "ejaculate" a lot of fluid from your urethra (don't worry, it's not pee). The physical and emotional pleasure that you'll feel everywhere at the same time is just about the best feeling a human body can have.
(Everything you "might" feel or do above isn't always going to happen... some orgasms are much less overwhelming than just *very* pleasureable.)
As that feeling becomes more gentle and starts to go away (after maybe 5 to 20 seconds), your whole body will begin to relax, your skin will flush pinker (especially over your chest) and you might feel sort of like having a nap... or like just lying there and letting your mind drift... or even like doing it again (and again... etc) right away.
It's not often, but it might happen that there'll be no interruption at all between orgasms, and it can feel like one single orgasm that lasts anywhere from 30 or 40 seconds to several minutes.
Have fun and don't worry. Masturbation is having sex with the only person you'll ever meet who knows *exactly* what you feel and what you like, even if that changes every second. It's normal and healthy, learning what pleases you sexually is good for you, and when it comes to having sex with the one you *want*, you'll be able to tell them (or to show them if you like) the things you like best.
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